iChat 6.x: Manage Jabber and Google Talk buddy authorization
When you first add a Jabber or Google Talk buddy to a buddy list, the person is listed in the Offline area of the list, assigned the status Unknown, and labeled “Waiting for Authorization.”
An Authorization window opens on the person’s computer to announce you want to add him or her as a buddy and to provide the opportunity to decline or accept. You can chat with the person regardless of the response, but the actual response affects how your respective Jabber or Google Talk buddy lists look.
If the person you added clicks Decline, you aren’t added to his or her buddy list. In your buddy list, the person remains in the Offline area, with the label “Not Authorized.” You can chat with the person, but you won’t see the person’s status. You can choose Buddies > Request Authorization to send another authorization request, if you like.
If the person you added clicks Accept, you’re added to each other’s buddy list in the Buddies area, with full status information showing.
If the person you added doesn’t respond to the request for authorization, he or she remains listed in the Offline area of your buddy list. You can double-click the person’s name in the list to start a chat, but you can’t see the person’s status. In addition, you aren’t listed on his or her buddy list.