Control the Apple TV app on Mac with iTunes Remote
If you have an iPhone, iPad or iPod touch, you can use the iTunes Remote app to control your media library on your Mac. iTunes Remote is available as a free download from the App Store.
Pair iTunes Remote with your media library
Before you can use the iTunes Remote app, you need to pair it with the media library (or libraries) you want to control. Your device and computer must be on the same wireless network and signed in with the same Apple ID.
On your iOS or iPadOS device, open the Remote app.
Do one of the following:
If it’s your first time using iTunes Remote: Tap Connect Manually.
If it’s not your first time using iTunes Remote: Tap Settings, then tap “Add a media library”.
A 4-digit code appears.
In the Apple TV app
on your Mac, click the Remote button 
under Devices in the sidebar, then type the 4-digit code. The Apple TV app pairs the library on your computer with the iTunes Remote app on your device.
Pair iTunes Remote with your Home Sharing network
If you have Home Sharing turned on, you can set the iTunes Remote app to pair automatically with any of the media libraries on your Home Sharing network.
On your iOS or iPadOS device, open the Remote app.
Do one of the following:
If it’s your first time using iTunes Remote: Tap Use Home Sharing.
If it’s not your first time using iTunes Remote: Tap Settings, then tap to turn Home Sharing on.
Sign in using your Apple ID and password.
Tap the media library you want to control.
The Remote app is also available on Apple Watch. See Control Apple TV with Apple Watch in the Apple Watch User Guide.